If you are anything like me, you might have read a number of parenting guides. You might have attended every parenting class in the town. You might be a well informed and conscientious parent, but is your way of rearing children the only way? No, there are thousands and thousands of different styles of parenting. While some global parenting practices may make you cringe there are some which deserve a much closer look.
School hours are quite less
In the Finnish model of education, the guiding doctrine is ‘fair play’ and not ‘high achievements’. Children do not begin formal education until they attain seven years of age. While in America, they cut break times to teach more formal academics and try to reduce subjects like art and music, the Finnish educators give art, music, and life skills more importance. Despite the fact that Finnish children start school quite late, they rank as some of the best students in the world.
The extended family
Many parents in America only visit relatives and other generations of a family when there is an occasion or when there is a family gathering. But, in Brazil, it’s common to see several generations of a family like parents, grandparents, siblings and cousins to live together. They live in adjoining homes or on separate floors of one big home. The Brazilians believe a lot in extended family ties. They believe that living this way is very efficient for raising kids and that it helps the children when they’re fortunate to be influenced by loving family members.
Remember those days when you’re strolling in the park with your toddler, and you pull out tiny snacks to keep them full? Guess what; that’s not how it’s done in Korea. In Korea, parents teach their children that the value of food is best when it’s shared. They teach them that eating is a life skill. This is done by making them wait out their hunger until it is time for the entire family to eat. This is why many Korean children are good eaters.
Parents and children are equal
There are many times when we tell our children to go out to and play or to go to their room so elders can have a conversation about grown-up stuff. Well, it doesn’t work like that in Sweden. The Swedes make sure that the children’s opinions are expressed. This egalitarian relationship accentuates the maturity of children.
Remember those days when you’d sit your child down and tell them that if anyone offers them candy, then they’re to respond by saying, “I am not allowed to take candy from strangers.” If you did this in Chile, then you’ll find yourself being frowned upon by the strangers around you. In Chile, offering children candy is a sign of affection, so it’s quite prevalent to see strangers offering candy to kids.
Spanish parents feel that it’s crucial for the children to have an active participation in the family’s nightlife. While many Americans send their children off to bed by 7, Spanish children don’t go to bed until 10 or later.
Talking about accomplishments
In England, you’d never be able to hear parents brag about their children’s accomplishments. While Americans might say, “My little Sally seems to have a real gift for the piano.” The English would say something like, “We’re trying to encourage little Sarah’s efforts at learning the ukulele.” These remarks are made in front of their children to teach them not to brag and to teach them how to accept constructive criticism.
When it comes to giving our children freedom, we relate it to their age. We increase their independence as they grow older. This is to prepare us to let them go when they need to. In Asian countries like China, parents keep reminding their children of the responsibilities they have. Chinese parents don’t let go because they think that reminding children of their responsibilities they have towards the family will increase their motivation and will help them to work harder to fulfill their duties.
In most countries, parents rely on babysitters, relatives, and other family members who are older than 18 years to take care of their children. But, in the Polynesian Islands, adults only take care of babies till the time they can walk. Once they are able to walk, they are taken off by other children. This is an amazing way that helps children to become more self-reliant and also teaches them how to be around older kids.
“Co-Sleeping” those in favor – raise your hands!
Parents around the world fear “spoiling” their children by co-sleeping. But, in countries like Japan, co-sleeping is a very common concept. The Japanese have trouble understanding why other parents put newborn children in separate rooms. While the Americans worry about spoiling their children and hesitate to comfort them, the Japanese run to comfort their babies’ cries. The Japanese believe that this so-called “spoiling” that Americans refer to can assure babies that they’re loved unconditionally, which plays a vital role in their development.
Kids are allowed to go out
In Asian countries like China, India, and Japan, don’t be surprised if you see children who are as young as 4 to run errands alone. If you see children wandering around town, don’t call social services because, in Japan, it’s normal. But in countries like New Zealand, Australia, and America, it’s illegal to leave your children inside the house without an adult.
I always thought of parenting as a skill, a skill that we need to polish, to learn more about, to practice with full dedication. I take this skill more seriously than most and I make sure that I provide the very best for my child in education, provisions, activities and of course preschool. I am proud of the fact that my son goes to one of the best preschools accredited by QualityKG advanced preschool accreditation. The preschool development programs at QualityKG familiarize parents like me with different parenting styles around the world. With QualityKG play school franchise and best preschools, you can also reap the fruits of diversity in parenting and education.
Diversity can not only be seen in language, creed, culture, and religion but also in parenting styles. The world we live in is filled with rich traditions and culture that can shape your young ones to be responsible, well-behaved, kind and successful adults. There may be a few styles that might make you cringe, but there are some that are sure to help you in your journey as a parent. As an individual you don’t have to adopt one parenting style over the other, you can choose a few that you’d like to incorporate into your lifestyle. You can be liberal and independent. Make sure you think twice before choosing a style as this is an integral part of your child’s life.
So, are there a few changes you’d like to make in the way you bring up your child?