Let’s give a shout-out to all the working moms out there who have endured the working-motherhood-slog-fest for decades! After years of juggling between work and family, new studies prove that a working mother’s efforts didn’t go in vain.
Latest studies by Harvard Business School revealed that children of working mothers are more successful in the office and helpful at home.
In the past, it was believed that having a parent (especially mothers) at home is beneficial for the growth of children; however, at the dawn of the 21st century, it appears that it that may not be the case after all.
Staying at home or competing shoulder-to-shoulder in the workforce, what makes one a better mother? That’s a discussion which has troubled mothers for time immemorial. Does being a working mom, make you a bad mother? Is your choice to fulfill your career dreams scarring your child for life? Or, have you set a good example in front of your children by joining the workforce and being an independent woman?
As a working mother, questions like these keep me awake at night. I often feel burdened by the guilt when I hear people say – “Working motherhood can have a negative effect on a child and children can only prosper well when they have a parent at home.” Does this mean that I have missed the boat on bonding and attachment with my child?
When these questions started overwhelming me I started doing my own research to find out if working motherhood is, in fact, all that bad. I started talking to working women on this subject. After all, it’s not up to the experts to decide how a mother’s joining the workforce affects the child, it is up to the grown child to decide – they are the bona fide experts.
Here are 3 women who are sharing their experience and opinions about growing up with a working mother:
Sasha, 32, Professor
Mom’s profession: Accountant
About her early days: “I studied in one of the best preschools accredited by one of the finest preschool accreditation agencies. Later, I went to a top most college and earned a Ph.D.”
As a toddler how did you feel about your mother being a working mom: “My mother wasn’t able to read me bedtime stories, however, she was able to (rather, excelled at) creating a strong female role model for me. She was really particular about sending me and my sisters to the best play schools and the best preschools. My mother taught me the significance of learning and the significance of working hard to accomplish my ambitions. She did her best at both fronts be it at the office or at home.”
Are you a working mother yourself: “Yes I am a working mother of a 3-year-old daughter. I work full-time and I get a lot help from my daughter’s preschool which is accredited by QualityKG preschool accreditation standards. I want my daughter to get the same inspiration from me as I got from my mother.”
Anita, 37, Software Engineer
Mom’s profession: Doctor
About her early days: “My mother’s profession kept her really busy, but she didn’t compromise on my education, especially in the early years. She made sure I went to one of the best preschools with high-quality globally relevant preschool development programs.”
As a toddler how did you feel about your mother being a working mom: “I must confess I was proud that my mother was a doctor. She had set an inspiring example for me; she showed me that it is possible to have both a happy family and a rewarding career. Being as busy as she was, she often came to many of my school activities.”
Are you a working mother yourself: “Not being one was never an option for me! I have been working as a software engineer and managing my working motherhood for past 10 years. While my mother never had options like work-from-home, I cash in on every opportunity to work from the comfort of my home, so that I don’t miss out on my child’s early year’s milestones.”
Kathy, 40, Interior Designer
Mom’s profession: School principal
About her early days: “I went to the best play school franchise and preschool and got accepted in the college of my choice. Early childhood learning was a fun and wholesome experience for me.”
As a toddler how did you feel about your mother being a working mom: “My mom was an independent woman with a fulfilling career but she left her job when I was about to start preschool. She said she was worried that I would not be able to cope up with the sudden change. However, I remember to this day that my mom wasn’t as happy and as fun when she wasn’t working, so in a way, I sort of preferred her being a working mom. I must mention that ultimately she chose a preschool development program with the stamp of preschool curriculum accreditation; that’s what changed her mind about parting ways with a profession she loved. She was happy to see me grow and develop both physically and intellectually in a preschool setting that met her requirements and mine.”
Are you a working mother yourself: “Yes, I am a working mother with twins, both ready to set off on their preschool journey soon. Like my mom, I have made a decision of keeping preschool accreditation a priority for my children. I’ll be sending my children to one of the best preschools accredited by QualityKG (one of the finest preschool accreditation agencies).”
In the end:
Apart from the three instances quoted above, I had asked many other working women to share details of their experience and opinions about growing up with a working mother. In the end, it appeared that every child (now a grown woman) had a different experience altogether. Luckily, I discovered that even after having working mothers not one of these women seemed ‘scared for life’. I hope this post goes out to all working mothers like a message, telling them there’s hope and in the end, everything will turn out fine.